Wednesday, August 05, 2009

Ugh...I'm done.

So, as may be no surprise to long-time followers of this blog, I am on the road to divorce. It has been so hard to admit that to myself (let alone anyone else), but what is done is done. As such, I will have the three kids all week by myself. They will be gone on the weekends (which will kill me) but I will have plenty to keep me busy (catching up with work, laundry, any house repairs, etc.) so hopefully I won't be lonely. Anyway, my posting may be more sporadic than usual. If that's cool with you, still pop in when you can. I may need to vent (hell, maybe I'll scrap all of this...ha!) but I am tired of pretending everything's okay. This is going to be one hell of a challenge (especially having a six year old, a three year old and a seven month old to appropriately divvy my time up to) but I think I am finally up for it.

Now I have got to tend to my three, get prepped for various appointments (doctor, lawyer, Realtor, etc.) and try to get this house and my work responsibilities in some kind of order (methinks I may be getting little sleep!). Thanks for always leaving such lovely comments. While I may not be able to return the favor, please know that they brighten my spirits so.

Positive note of the day:
Today is the first step towards a better me.

P.S. To the anonymous poster who felt the need to slag me, go find somewhere else to troll. I tried. It didn't work. My children are my blessings so leave me be. (And I am quite sure you are perfect too and in exactly the right place to lay judgment.)

62 comments:

Michelle/Eliotstamps said...

Just wanted to send you a (HUG)! Sorry you're going through such a rough time.

JenMarie said...

{{HUGS}}

Lisa said...

Hugs from me too. We'll still be here!!

Jan Scholl said...

You can't be lonely on the weekend Allison. That is when all the crazy people take to the internet and troll and leave our names! Hyuk hyuk.

Always here, always on at midnight and always got time for ya.

Nancy said...

It can't always be fixed... you tried... now you have to do what is right for you

Hugs

Shannon said...

I agree with Nancy said. You need to do what is right for you and the kids. We kids know when things aren't right.

Stampin_melissa said...

{{{hugs}}}

It isn't an easy step, but it is healthlier than being miserable in a bad marriage, for you and the kids!

Katie Renz said...

Keep your chin up!

Rachel V. said...

(((Hugs))) Allison! Sending thoughts and prayers for peace for you and the kids as you go through this transition. You're a great mom, and I have faith you're doing what is best for you and your children.

Alien Thoughts said...

I am so sorry to read about your life just now. It is very hard and I hope you will find the strength to move forward. I will keep you in my prayers. I am sad some rotten person is acting like a troll. (((Hugs )))
Karen

Kathi Carlson said...

Hey, kid! I follow but don't comment very often. I want you to know now though that I'm thinking about you. You're a smart lady and a great mom. You'll be OK.

Libby Hickson said...

Great big hugs to you Allison! I do hope you believe your positive note for the day, because I am sure it is true! Please know I'm always here if you need to vent (especially in the wee hrs!!). You are a strong, intelligent woman and a loving mom. Only you know what's best for you and your situation (and a great big BOO to anonymous posters, I hate that!!)

Zarna said...

wishing you all the strength and happiness you need to get through this!!!

PS a positive spin on things: weekends don't equal lonely...
Weekends = uninterrupted stamping time! :)

Andrea said...

Hey there. I am both terribly sad and so relieved for you and the kidlets. Always know that I am there for you ... and btw, send that anonymous poster my way and we shall see what they have to say. I know that you have tried so hard (too hard at times in my opinion), so know that you are doing the right thing and this is the first step in the right direction. Me loves you ... and little Will does too.

Susie said...

I don't know what to say. I guess I'm concerned for you - you have so much responsibility. But then you always have. As I read your posts I actually don't know how you do it all. You ARE a great Mom - so caring, loving, ambitious and involved with your 3 precious blessings. I hope your life will be what you want it to be. You have many friends and much support on here but I hope you have some IRL as well - along with family. You will need them. I'm praying for you my Friend.

Kathynruss said...

So sorry things are not working out, but we'll be here.

Judy Miller said...

It sounds as if you are making a positive decision for yourself and your children. You are a strong, intelligent person. You will make it. I raised two children on my own after their father died. It's no fun but as they say 'what doesn't kill us will make us stronger'.
You won't be lonely on weekends. You have to take time to do things for you and we are here for you.
Ignore the negative comments. They need to walk a mile in your shoes but they can't because they don't have the courage you do.

Ila said...

I'm so sorry things haven't worked out. The last few years have been very tough for you...still your children are Beautiful, happy and well taken care of. I'm sure their presence and your exceptional character will continue to give you the strength for whatever lies ahead. Sending you positive thoughts, prayers and a Hug!... Ila

Lauri said...

Hey I never comment...I have been there...done what you are doing and it is absolutely the right thing! You are the most important person...you need to be happy in order for your children to learn how to be happy. Put yourself first and you will absolutely succeed! My daughter was three when I divorced and it was a difficult transition but I used my time "alone" to figure out who I was (okay, I am still working on that)...but looking back, i cannot imagine staying in the situation I was in.

Lindy Stamper said...

As a long time follower, I've always admire your courage and patience for working thru things. I know it must've been difficult all this time; and if the end of the road is here, it's here. Only you know what is best for you and your kiddos. Just know we are here for you.

For the trolls that are just being mean: walk a mile in someone's shoes before judging!

amymom24 said...

So sorry, Allison:( All the best.

Julie said...

((Hugs)) Allison and know that you're doing the right thing for you and your kids! :)

Lyn said...

Allison, don't let the turkeys get you down. Only you know what's best for you and your children. Your loyal blog readers stand behind YOU and care for you and your kids. Best of luck, I'll be thinking of you. Everything will work out the way it's meant to be. Just remember to take time for yourself, easier said than done, I know.......but it's important. ((HUGS))

Maria Matter said...

{{squishy hugs}} to you!
Just know you're loved!
Blessings, Maria

Lesly said...

Allison, Having made the same made the same decision last November, I know the road is not easy. However, the peace I have in my life now is incredible. I have 9 and 12 year old boys who are the light of my life. The first weekend they were gone, I had cartoons playing so that I could pretend they were home. It does get easier and now I find that the time flies until they return. If you ever have a chance to look through my blog, I hope you can feel the peace and joy that are part of my life now.
Take care and know that you are in my prayers.

Jackie said...

{HUGS} You did your best and although it's not going to be easy, it will be for the best. Just keep looking ahead and remember that life is too short for regrets. Your WJs need you and so do your PSFs :-)

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Basement Stamper said...

ok, I had something written out, don't know where it disappeared to but wanted to send hugs your way.

It takes 2 to make a thing go RIGHT! You can't do it all on your own. Remember your kids and never put them in the middle, it will make what you are going through so much easier on them to remain as friendly as possible when they are around.

Let us know if you need anything!

Rachel said...

Allison I am a quiet follower of your blog and have loved all you have shared. So now I'd like to share a BIG BIG hug with you and tell you that although this path will be rocky, you'll get thru it and become a stronger and much more nourished person because of it. My heart goes out to you and your little one, and I say VENT AWAY BABY! LOL

Hugs
Rachel :)

Diane said...

I've been following your blog for sometime now and had no idea what you were dealing with. I have always marvelled at how you do all you do -- family, work, create, blog. Now I marvel even more. My thoughts are with you.

Aimee said...

Oh Allison, I'm sorry to hear your news. As a twitter pal/blog follower/FB friend (although a pretty quiet one) I see how loving and fun you are with your kids and geez, you are one busy lady! I know this decision is one that many people struggle with but I think (as many here do) that you'll do great--you're so strong and intelligent. I'll be thinking of you. Sending you {{{hugs}}}

Stampedbyanangel@aol.com said...

Allison...you will be in my prayers through your journey! You've always been an inspiration...big hugs your way!

Sheryl said...

Oh Allison, I am so sorry to hear your news today. I don't comment often but I have been a faithful follower. My heart is breaking for you. It is so hard to do what is right for you and your children. You will survive this and be a stronger Mom for having done what is right.

Paula Barin said...

Allison, Sorry to hear your news. Divorce is never easy... trust me, I know. Your focus now is on you and the kids. You'll come out of this a stronger you.
Sporatic or not.... we'll always visit your blog.

Dani said...

What a tough decision to have to make. I'm sure you'll all adjust and it will all work out. Staying in an unhealthy/unhappy marriage is never the right thing to do. Hugs to you and the kids!

Kim Muhl said...

So sorry you have so much on your plate right now. Big cyber {{{{HUGS}}} to you and your kids!

Tami B. said...

Challenges in life are often blessings in disguise. I hope some day you can look back on this difficult time and see the good that comes from it. Sending lots of hugs as you face this journey, Allison.

tanja said...

Hugs to you and the kids and even the husband. I have no doubt that you will be more than ok. Keep your friends close. Best wishes and thoughts for you.

Kelly said...

(((HUGS))) Allison!! I have been where you are granted I only had 2 chicklettes (btw yours are cuties)and come out the other side alomost intact....lol....sorry humor is my thing... I will keep you in my thoughts....

Merlie said...

"Some people think it's holding on that makes one strong; Sometimes it's letting go."

{{{HUGS}}} to you and your kids.

Diane said...

Wishing you and your kids all the best Allison! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugzzzz,Diane

Bluemoon said...

Take care of yourself Allison, and do get some sleep! I wish you an easy passage, and I totally agree with you, I'm tired of pretending for others. I think you will be just fine, just take one day at a time and know many are going thru tough times too, you are not alone. Your blog is yours to post or do when you wish, so do not worry about it. First things first!!

Nancy Ward said...

One step at a time...one step at a time. Things will get better. Won't even pretent it'll be easy, but slowly, by surely, things will get better.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Nancy

Juanita said...

Hugs out to you.

Rita said...

Oh Allison I'm so sorry that you have to go through such a rough time. I know you will come out of this a stronger person...your already a great mom & I don't know how you manage to do it all...I admire you & think you have a great outlook on life. I'm just catching up on all my blog surfing, sorry I have been away for so long & you know I'm always here for ya kiddo if you need me. Take care of yourself. Lots of hugs to you my friend!

Ida P. Krause said...

Oh my this wasn't news I was expecting to read. What can I say, I can't judge you because I haven't walked in your shoes. I have been divorced (but no children involved) so I know the pain and heartache that comes with that decision. It's not always easy. While I know you aren't one for "religious" talk I just want you to know that I will say a prayer for all your family that this transition period in your lives will go as smoothly and painlessly as possible. Big Hugs being sent your way.

Elena said...

Oh, no... I am so shocked to hear these news... And very very sad... Just wanted to tell you that I will keep you in my thoughts...
Sending you my hugs,
Elena

SueB said...

Omigosh, I'm playing blog snurf catch-up and just heard ... and send cyber hugs your way. Sorry to hear things haven't worked out. Take care, and know we'll be here and you'll get thru this.

Shannon McGann said...

So sorry you're going through this right now. Sending big hugs your way. You're a smart, tough lady. I know you'll get through this. Love and prayers are with you and your little ones.

~amy~ said...

Allison...wow..I had no idea sista...I'm sending you tons of good ju-ju..wished we lived closer to each other....

Kim said...

Allison - I'm so sorry to hear the news. I remember when you guys were going through a rough patch awhile ago and I had so hoped that things had worked out for good. Will pray that the kids are ok and that you're strong (and well rested) during this difficult transition.

Allison Cope said...

Sending you LOTS of hugs Allison! Take care!

Jennifer said...

(((HUGS)) I just discovered your blog - cause you had discovered mine! (thanks!)

Don't know you personally, but I certainly feel for you and can empathize with what you're going through. ((HUGS))

HUGS to those beautiful kiddies of yours!!!

Jen

sheffsue said...

Sorry to hear your news. Been there done that etc. You will be OK Allison..you're a strong lady. As long as the kids know that they are loved by both of you they will be OK too.

Sue x

Alexis said...

Allison,
I am sorry to hear about your divorce! I'm also sorry to hear that someone had to dump on you! As long as your children know that they are loved by both parents and Dad is involved, it will all work out!!! HUGS!!!

Linda Peterson said...

Allison,
I enjoy your blog and hearing about your life. I followed every bit of the way with Avery's health issues. You work so hard at being a good mom---I know you have done everything you can to keep your family together but sometimes it is time to move on. You put a lot of thought into everything and you will be just fine. Your blog is one of my favorites, always entertaining. Please take care of yourself and remember we all love you.
Linda Peterson

Rose Ann said...

Sending BIG cyber hugs, Allison!!

Monika/Buzsy said...

Allison... sorry to hear about it... do the best you can and try to enjoy it!
Hugs,
Monika

Lisa said...

Sorry to hear about this, but mostly because it's not a fun thing to go through. Take care of yourself during this time. And vent to us when you need to do so.

Dawn Easton said...

Sending you big hugs girl! I'm sorry that you have to go through any of this, but it's important to be happy too.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear of this. I hope things will soon be much better for you. At least your kids won't leave you much time to dwell on it! :0) Hugs to you.

Swedie

Risa said...

Allison I am so sorry dear and hate to see you and the kids going through this. Geez...I'm at a lost for words at the moment.
Hang in there and be strong for the kids. They will help you through this and you be strong for them.
I have said a prayer for you and the kids to be strong during this rocky period.
BIG HUGS
Risa:)